Struggling for Attention
Willow joined the conversation also sharing how she feels about her body weight and figure. To both the older women’s surprise, the young teenager revealed, “[I’ve] struggled with curvier women, and curvier girls have always gotten more attention from the boys that I’ve liked and have ended up dating the boys that I’ve liked.”
She further emphasized that this isn’t a one-time thing either. In her experience, this is something that happens again and again.
Keeping Positive
Jada showed everyone how to turn a bad situation into a positive one using honesty, love, and optimism. She replied to her mother, “I love that you’ve gained weight.”
Adrienne responded, “In my mind, I feel fat. I know that that’s not true; I know I’m not fat. But I certainly am bigger than I used to be.” The young Willow also chimed in with her loving opinion, “That’s not a problem.”
Trying to Reach Crazy Standards
Jada’s mother wasn’t convinced by her daughter and granddaughter’s attempt to propping her up. The grandmother said that she still “feels like [it’s] a problem”, and that she hopes to find a way to resolve it through exercise and a correct diet.
Jada pointed out that her mother’s unwillingness to let go of her unachievable body standards comes from her being “used to seeing herself a certain way,” which makes her feel bad whenever she compares herself to how she looked in the past.
Sympathizing with Mom
Jada sympathized with her daughter’s unfortunate situation. She explained that her own experience was also very similar.
But instead of making her daughter feel better, these words only made Willow feel even more strongly about being “just not desirable” in young men's minds. The young girl further complained and added, “Like, is my body just like not what society likes?”
Blocking Out Negativity
Jada was quick to stop her daughter’s negative line of thinking and told her, “I tell Willow all the time she’s beautiful. Like all the time.” Her daughter agreed, and commented that she did learn how to block out people’s criticism over her body, but for a completely different reason.
Willow decided a long time ago that she wasn’t going to shave her armpit hair, which caused a lot of sexist and misogynistic criticism from both men and women.